He's not Interested, or is he?

Question: How do you know when to give up on a man that you're interested in?

                                                                                                  

Nikki: There are a lot of ways to tell if a man is interested in you. There are also a lot of clear signs to tell when somebody is not interested in you. The hardest part can be accepting that he doesn't think of you as all that compatible, even though the signs are there.

First off, if a man is into you he will go after you. Men don't play games, and tend to be confrontational. They also go after what they want. While women may play head games, and try to figure out the best time to call/ text, men will tell you directly.

The second way to tell if a man is interested is by  noticing the places he takes you/doesn't take you. If you are not going on actual dates, and find yourself only hanging out around 10 p.m., then it's time to move on. Don't hold on to something that isn't working. You're stronger than that.

Thirdly, Notice the names he calls you by. You are not somebody's buddy, or friend. If you are looking for guy friends (which I do not believe are genuine intentions), then it's okay for them to call you 'buddy, girl, dude'. If you're looking for someone who is romantically interested in you, then they will be polite when they refer to you, and treat you like a lady, and not somebody to hang out with and play video games with.

So to my follower, please remember that you are much stronger. You are able to find a hundred men who would love to be in a relationship with you. There's no reason for you to settle for somebody who calls you 'bud'. It's normal to date around for months, or even years. When the right person comes along (and they will), it will be an instant bond. There's no excuse for a man who are just starting to date, not to show you a good time, treat you like a lady, and not just call you in the evenings.

If you find yourself having trouble meeting men, then think about some local places you can volunteer with, and meet people. Maybe if there is a basketball/ baseball court close to where you live, at the gym, or even online. Online Dating isn't as Taboo as it used to be. It's now very much a social norm. Don't ever feel that you need to settle with someone who doesn't treat you right, just because you feel that you can't meet anybody else.

Much Luck.