Confident vs. Cocky

Question: I want to appear confident in front of somebody I'm interested in, but I don't want to seem too cocky. What's the difference, and how should I act?

Nikki: Confident is awesome. Cocky is annoying. Although, I'm sure if I took a poll, I would come to find that there are people out there who are drawn to cocky individuals. Some women may even find it as a turn on, because it resembles a 'bad boy appeal.' For the sake of this question, I'm not pro cocky!
It's also important to remember there is a difference if you're a man or woman.

                                                                                                            


If you're a Man:

• Show you are confident by being chivalrous. My followers already know I am a big fan of someone who is chivalrous. It's true. Being a gentleman truly shows that you are confident with your gender, and who you are as a man. 
• Ask the woman questions. Don't make it an interview process, but go in depth with certain topics she talks about. Don't just stop the conversation and then bring on a new topic. This requires listening; something that needs to be practiced. 
• Smile. It always helps your case. Plus, it's hard for a woman to not smile when she is being smiled at. 
• Give compliments you are genuine about. If you truly don't have anything nice to say at that moment, don't say anything. It's obvious when a man is sincere about what he is saying. 
• Within the first few conversations learn what the woman is interested in, and take her out somewhere she would like. This is not to say you should always take her out to where she wants (that's not fair, either). However, on the first date, it's a wise choice. 

Don't: 

• Ask a dozen questions back to back, and then ask for her number. It's obvious you were not truly genuine about your intentions. 

If you're a Woman: 

• Your attire says it all. We live in a society where we judge people in 3 seconds based on what they look like. Clean, Ironed, Classic Clothing pieces always work on everybody. Several standard colored shirt, with a nice blazer works for every figure.  
• Responsibility. There is something admirable about strong women who are independent leaders, and who follow through on their word. They are not afraid to take the reins on different situations. 

Don't:

• If you're hot stuff, then more power to you. Don't make the world know that you know you're hot stuff. Keep your body parts from hanging out, and be genuine. 
• Don't take your anger out on random people. If you're having a bad day, it shouldn't spread to everybody else. Go home, unwind, and then go do your errands. Being rude to everybody around you shows that you don't care too much about anybody else but yourself. 

If you have sincere intentions, you will always come across as a confident person. Know when to stand your ground. Aside from that a nice person will always be remembered- especially because they are a dying population.