Gift exchanges in Relationships

Question: Why do women always need gifts or flowers to feel special and loved?

And Why do the men always have to be spontaneous  and romantic? When is it the woman's turn?

-Mr. I want Flowers too (seriously). 

                                                                                                                      

Nikki: Men and Women expect different things when they are in relationships. When you grow with your partner in a relationship, you will come to learn things about them that they like, and things that they don't like. For you specifically, it sounds like your girlfriend enjoys getting flowers from you every now and then. That's what she personally enjoys. 

Think of the things you like that your Girlfriend does for you. It could be watching a particular sports team that she has no Interest in (but pretends she does for your sake), giving massages/ back scratches, watching you play video games while her favorite show is on.. The list can continue. 

Each partner in a relationship is responsible for making their significant other happy. So if your girlfriend wants flowers from time to time, you should definitely send them. Nobody has a bad day after they receive flowers. Now, if you are buying her flowers everyday (to the point of going broke), then you shouldn't do that either. It doesn't sound like that's the problem, though. 

They don't need to be extremely extravagant flowers, either. A small bouquet is just as beautiful. It's more so the thought of "you're too sweet for thinking of me like this." 

If you really want a dozen  of red roses from your girlfriend, then ask her. Sure, it will be out of the norm, but if it's what will make you happy, then tell her. 

I've noticed in relationships some partners are more modest about what they want from their partner, so they expect them to be modest too. That's not a good way to think. Just because you aren't speaking up about what you want, doesn't mean your partner isn't supposed to speak up either. It's about communicating what you want. 

Men and Women think differently. You're absolutely right that women should be spontaneous too. It's important for both parties to get that. So if you feel like you're not getting the spontaneous treatments that you want, then you have to communicate with your girlfriend. Nothing will change until you openly communicate. Sure, she may get defensive about it (or she may not), but talk. talk. talk. Nicely tell her. It's not a big deal. She won't get offended, and it shouldn't lead to a fight. 

And from a woman's perspective: There's truly nothing more special then getting flowers that say "just because I love you." When it's spontaneous like that, you will be a very very happy man.. come night time.